You Are Not Broken: Self-Compassion In Healing

By Lisa Tober, Intern
May 6, 2025

May is Mental Health Awareness Month, a good time to reflect on how we’re really doing and what kind of care we might need. So here’s a question for you: If you’ve ever thought about going to therapy, what do you imagine you’d want to talk about?

For many people, therapy becomes an option when they start feeling broken, flawed, or stuck. Maybe you’ve found yourself thinking, “Why can’t I just get it together?” or “What’s wrong with me?” If that sounds familiar, you’re definitely not alone.

The truth is most of us are doing the best we can with the tools and resources we have. Anxiety, emotional pain, feeling stuck, and even trauma responses are deeply human experiences. They can be painful, but they are not signs that you are broken or beyond help. You are not flawed because you struggle.

This is where self-compassion comes in. Ask yourself: Would you say to a friend the same harsh things you say to yourself when you’re struggling? Probably not. Shifting your inner dialogue, even a little, can help lessen shame, build resilience, and create space for healing.

So, where does counseling fit into this? Therapy offers a space where you can be heard without judgment. It’s a place to explore new ways to relate to your pain, to learn strategies that help you cope, and to gently reframe the stressful and difficult moments in your life. Healing isn’t about blaming yourself, looking for reasons to blame others, or pushing yourself harder to be better. It’s about taking small, compassionate steps forward to give you more tools and resources to work with.

If you’ve been thinking about starting counseling, know that you deserve support and care. We’re here for you when you’re ready to take that next step.

Lisa Tober, Intern

Hello! My name is Lisa, and I help clients uncover their authentic selves in a safe, non-judgmental setting where you are the expert in your own experience. I am passionate about working with individuals navigating religious trauma, LGBTQ+ issues, PTSD, anxiety, and depression. I offer a supportive space to process the impacts of rigid beliefs, spiritual abuse, and high-control religious environments. Together, we can explore your identity, navigate family dynamics, process feelings around rediscovering yourself as an adult, and cope with societal challenges like stigma or rejection. In our work together, I want you to know that your story matters, and I trust your experience as you share it. My role is to help you make sense of your journey without judgment, agenda, or bias. Therapy is a collaborative process, and success means feeling empowered to live as your truest self, guided by beliefs and identities that feel fully your own.

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